More Insights, More Surrender & More of This Divine Life!

I operate my life and my relationships according to the following insights:

1. The physical universe is an actualization of my thoughts.
2. If my thoughts are cancerous, they create a cancerous physical reality.
3. If my thoughts are perfect, they create a physical reality brimming with LOVE.
4. I am 100% responsible for creating my physical universe the way it is.
5. I am 100% responsible for correcting the cancerous thoughts that create a diseased reality.
6. There is no such thing as out there. Everything exists as thoughts in my mind.

These insights are part of an ancient healing technique  from Hawaii called Ho’oponopono.
Ho'oponopono is about taking full responsibility for your life and all the good or bad circumstances in it.


Recently, I have posted a lot about fear. The reason I have done this is to impart to you how all pervasive this emotion is in our society today and how damaging its effects can be. Over the last few weeks, I have been going through a great deal of pain with even more growth and insight...such a beautiful blessing.

I want to share some of these more recent insights with you. Take a look and see how you might be dealing with the world, remembering that your world is really your own creation and as such, it can be re-created at any time!!!

Before you change your world, you need to be deeply honest about how you have constructed it thus far. Once you examine your current world, you can then take steps to discard what you don't like and create anew, what you do like!


Truly empowering.
 
Friend or Foe

This might sound like the most simple concept in the world, yet it took a dear friend to help me see it:

Do you see the world as a friendly place or a hostile place?

The answer to this may explain numerous things to you...I for one have grown up seeing the world as a hostile and threatening place. It was not until today when she said this question to me, that I got “it”! And by “it” I mean that everything I was doing in life has been premised on the fact that I need to protect myself from the world. WOW...that is an exhausting task!

Now the reason this is so powerful is that my subconscious mind had taken the idea that the world is a hostile place and kept it as truth. No matter what I did consciously to see or do differently, my subconscious mind had the real programming and would not allow me to break through this reality.

Consequently, I was unable to allow myself to receive freely because I was unintentionally blocking all friendly and good things by this subconscious programming.

I could spend time telling you how I ended up believing this, but that is really not important – it is interesting but not terribly helpful to ending the problem. The minute my friend said that I was blocking out the good by this view that the world is unfriendly, I woke up! Although I may have known what I was doing intellectually, my essence or spirit was not understanding it until that moment when I realized, “oh, she is right.” “Seeing the world as hostile has kept me from really enjoying the fruits of what I do.” After all, how could anyone receive anything from a world that seems to be a threat?

And even more important, anyone who believes that this world is a hostile place is by definition not living connected to God/Source/Creator. God or Source would not create such a place to begin with so even though I felt as if I were living side by side with God, I was not...instead, I was living in an alternate dimension where all was negative and angry.


Sweet Surrender

I cannot tell you how often I have used the word “surrender” in the last few months; I said it or thought it many, many times. Despite how much I used that word, I never actually understood what I meant by it! I was certain of one thing: Once I surrendered, I would finally be free of this gripping financial fear issue and the constant struggle with my family to understand and know me in my current role of intuitive, healer and spiritual adviser. So there I would sit in meditation, trying desperately to surrender and to feel that release. I craved that freedom that I just knew would engulf my whole being and then I would know that I had turned the corner. Try, try as I might, that freedom and surrender just would not come!

In fact, I kept actually feeling a physical block from surrender. I was working as hard as I could...trying to get there, but something kept blocking me from achieving it and so I worked even harder trying to get there, to that illusive surrender.

Then today, while reading about light workers, I was thinking about all those wonderful souls that I work with who (like me) are light workers when suddenly, BOOM, I felt it! I knew what it was in an instant! The IT was surrender! I had just surrendered fully!

Right then and there, I realized that surrender was not something I had to actively move towards or work at. All I had to do was move out of my own way and let God come into me! What I mean is this: I often talk about having a relationship with Source/Creator/God and how personal and intimate this must be. That is true. You must cultivate a relationship with Source that allows you to go there and be with Source when you need to. But, what I have left out is the following: You must allow God to come into you! This is the surrender. This is the place where you simply allow and KNOW from within and without that all you do, say, be and feel is from God/Source/Creator. From that moment on, as you move out of the way, life is no longer about you and control or ego; that part of you has surrendered (stepped aside) and is now replaced by God/Source/Creator!

And when it happens, oh my! When you release everything and know deep, deep down that it will be alright because you are no longer flying your plane; instead, you have turned that plane called LIFE over to the most sophisticated and powerful auto-pilot around!! You can sit back and glide - just learning and being because literally you and the father are one! Finally.

In these last few months, I knew something was wrong, but I did not realize it was the fundamental point of once again releasing control. In all the struggle and fear, I had taken back my ego and in doing so, my ego began holding me hostage.

“What will I do? What should I do? Should I get a “real” job like everyone is telling me to do? Why is this so hard...why can't this be easy ?” Mind chatter would go on and on... and on.

On top of all that, I began to resent people that I perceived as being responsible for my downfall...my family who was not supporting me and never had; my clients who were not following through when they had opted to work the month, but then canceled on me at the last minute. Once again, although I knew better, I was obsessed with everything outside of me; not only was I obsessed, but I was trying to fix, control or judge all of it. By doing this, I was once again imprisoned in negativity and powerlessness. Aarggghhhhh!!!

In the moment when I surrendered, I knew myself to be one with Creator/God/Source; instantly, all my resentments, worries and fears slipped easily away into some abyss no longer connected to anything to do with me. I am free!

So, remember that to surrender, you don't have to work at anything or aim for something or get somewhere. All you need to do is literally get out of your own way and invite your God/Creator/Source into that wide open space and become one with you. From this place of wholeness, you can know and be pure consciousness and bliss.


I am sharing with you, in order, the more recent epiphanies that I have had....here is the last piece of my big puzzle:

Crushing Cruelty

The other day I received an incredibly cruel and hateful letter from my landlord in response to my giving notice and explaining why I was leaving. I almost printed the letter here so you could see how venomous this was! I was shocked by the letter and its sentiment because I had no idea that I was disliked this intensely; for months, all the communications had told me that I was the most kind and considerate tenant ever!

What bothered me even more was the anger that was being poured into this piece of paper as if unloading on me would cure the deep fear the author was clearly experiencing. We have spent so many years being told that we must speak our truth as if being sure to blame someone else will release what we are feeling. Trust me, it doesn't. You will never be able to let all that negativity out of you until you actually take responsibility for creating it in the first place.

What I know is this: I may make mistakes but how someone else feels about me is THEIR issue, not mine as I have no control over their emotional state. After reading the letter, I was sad because I had no idea that the level of hostility towards me went so deep; had I known, I would have left months earlier. I never want to be in a situation where I am not wanted that much!

When I responded, I did so in kindness because the only thing I can control is how I feel, what I do and what I say; therefore, I am not going to respond to anger and hate with that in return. Instead, I will wrap it in love and energy with the intention of diffusing the power of it so that my body is not negatively affected by it.

Being able to do this was a result of all the work I have done over the years on learning about my purpose for being here and how to elevate my consciousness. I know that I am 100% responsible for changing anything in my life that I do not like; it it not someone else' responsibility to fix me. I could clearly see what was theirs to handle and what was mine.


 Cells have memory.

Ok..so the truth of the matter, is I started to really get overwhelmed by the hostility directed at me in that letter. In becoming overwhelmed, I right away went back into fear. Despite all the work I have done and all the continued awareness, it is very easy for my body, mind and spirit to revert to old patterns. Even if I have released what I believe are the guts of those patterns, there are still remnants in my subconscious that I may not know about until these are brought forward into my conscious mind; however, the beauty of doing this work is knowing that I will have the opportunity to clear everything if I just keep going!

My body and spirit responds in the way it best remembers and until I change that, then I am stuck. So, much of what is happening now is simply a result of my past thinking and fear about the world. I get stuck in the subconscious belief that I am just not ok here.  I have constructed a reality that, of course, will come after me since that is what I fear deep down.  Also, having come from a fear-filled, overprotective family, I have created a pattern of relying on this family to bail me out of difficult situations. The result of doing this is a loss of courage and confidence that I can fall, pick myself up and continue on. Mistakes become too big and then I am too fearful of making them.

I had a realization through this experience that despite being sober for nearly four years, I have been unconsciously recreating those same patterns of addiction in other things. When I find myself in a crisis, I begin to panic and feel paralyzed. Then, I may decide I need to approach my father and ask for his help or to have him solve the problem. I agonize for days about having to, once again, admit my “failure” and go to him for help. This is true physical agony. Once I go to him, I receive the solution and I can release all the anxiety. Can you see how this is a little like an alcoholic agonizing over trying to not drink all day, then finally giving in and releasing all that pent up fear and anxiety once the alcohol hits the blood stream?

One of the hardest parts of life for an addict or alcoholic is overcoming the idea that stable is boring. For most of us, we have lived lives of extreme ups and downs. Stability is truly the unknown and if it is known to us, it seems dull. Although I have give up substances, I allowed the old patterns of chaos to creep back into my life and sabotage me. BUT...and this is the big BUT, I was able to see it! And, I was able to see it in a lot less time than it used to take. Most importantly, because I am taking responsibility for 100% of my life, I am able to CHANGE this and that is divine.

Today, I am been able to let go and move on to living a life as an adult woman who is true divinity as well. 



Even though this may seem to take a great deal of time and a lot of hard work (both of which are true), the end result is living a life that is empowered, healthy and joyful with deep peace as well.  Raising your consciousness so that your life is of a higher dimension, as well as having the tools to deal with all challenges is nothing short of miraculous and why not?  Life should be celebrated and enjoyed...danced to and revelled in...the years go by in an instant and we must teach our children how precious these years are and how awesome this thing called Earth, Gaia is as well!  Dance with me! 
Not my will, but thine. Thank you for the lesson. - Paul Solomon

The Importance of True Healing

I was reminded today of why it is so important to do true healing at some point in ones life. Many people believe that therapy and coming to terms with some issue in their lives is enough. I do not.

I believe that therapy can help us identify problems and issues. In other words this process may uncover and discover problems within; however, I am not convinced that therapy helps us rid (discard) ourselves of the negative energy those issues carry with them. If we do not release this energy, it continues to bombard our bodies with negative destruction over and over again, eventually causing the body to enter a state of “dis-ease”.

I have spoken with and worked with so many people who have had years of therapy and while many of them are able to freely express themselves and the problems they have identified and worked on, they continue to hold the dark energy of those problems within their spirits and bodies. Ultimately, they have not healed the issue; rather, they have only found a place for it that is emotionally manageable. When a mind, body and spirit (as one) have not fully healed something, it can continue to fester and attract more negativity to itself, eventually causing illness. This is clearly something that must be avoided.

Energy work and spiritual healing, when done correctly, guides a person towards completely uncovering, discovering and discarding those problems, beliefs and issues that have found their way into our subconscious and conscious minds over time. The person can be walked through a process of releasing not only the problem but the power or energy that problem holds within the person's body, mind and spirit.

Additionally, by seeing all problems or issues as spiritual lessons or teachings, the person is often able to turn somethng that has been a lifelong negative into a true positive, learning so much from the experience that they never again need face that same issue again! This is true enlightenment and a skill that once learned can be used effectively towards healing future problems. I cannot think of anything more empowering that being able to take something that has the potential to destroy, remove its power and turn it on its head so that it becomes a gift of growth and perhaps inspiration!

I was having a discussion (unfortunately only by email) with someone I do not know who was very angry with me. I had attempted to explain my history and background in an effort to illustrate why I approached a certain social problem from a unique perspective. My perspective seemed to cause her great distress! When I mentioned that I had healed myself of three different diseases and that this journey created this new perspective, she shot back that she “knew all about self-healing” as her husband had done specific back exercises with great success. While I understood her point, I could only note the deep anger that was being held within this woman who may know all there is to know about self-healing from her husband's perspective, but has no idea about releasing that energy from her own body, mind and spirit..

I was profoundly sad for her because I knew that had she spent any time at all on her own spiritual healing, she would have released the anger she carried within herself and used toward others when it was unecessary to do so. When we target others with our own anger, we usually end up causing ourselves far more distress than we cause the other person. The negativity of this anger leaves us momentarily thereby giving us a false sense of release and then returns to us exponentially larger as it now carries with it the negativity from the person it was directed towards as well as any stray dark energy it gathered from the collective unconscious while on its journey.

Releasing toxic energy from our bodies is the only way to be sure that we no longer will suffer the ill effects of its toxicity. This is what true healing is all about. Releasing this negative energy and allowing the body to come back to balance and restore itself from “dis-ease” to ease and wholeness.

Lastly, I want to address the many requests I receive from individuals who would like me to solve a painful problem in one email. While true healing and profound enlightenment can and often does happen in an instant, the process leading up to that instant involves time. We live in a world that provides us instant access to almost everything and unfortunately, this has led us to believe that anything that takes time is boring, unworthy or outdated. Spiritual growth and healing of the body, mind and spirit is not a destination but an exciting lifelong journey that should be treated with great reverence, not as a download or update of software. If you find someone who is willing to give you instant advice without taking into account how you arrived at the problem you are now facing, you have cheated yourself of some important learning; this is invaluable information which might possibly prevent you from more searing pain in the future. Anytime we do not learn our lessons from one experience, we become destined to repeat the lesson with higher stakes in the future!

There is a process to doing this and all of us who work with clients probably approach the journey in very different ways. The main concern is that you are on your own journey towards healing and wholeness and not walking the path of your healer; he or she has done his/her own journey and should not need you to validate it. Be prepared that deep healing is not always comfortable, easy or quick. It is not about you receiving only nurturing; is is only about you becoming whole again. Growth is often painful but oh, so worth it!!! As my wonderful and enlightened friend would say, “Happy Healing!”

Are You Overly Sensitive?

Over these last few posts, I have mentioned that I am someone who is very sensitive. A lot of you seemed to identify with being sensitive as well. I have found in my work that many people who are dealing with chronic pain issues or autoimmune disease are also incredibly sensitive and empathic (they feel other peoples feelings without having been told what the person is experiencing).


Because of this, I want to take a minute to explain a little more about what we as sensitives deal with on a daily basis. Those of us who are sensitive often do not realize that we feel and take on OTHER people's feelings, fears, physical illnesses, etc. without knowing that we have done this. On top of that, if we are empathic and intuitive, we can be bombarded by the fears, anxieties and depression of the collective unconscious; often times, we will end up in bed not understanding why we are so unhappy when nothing specific has happened to us. We do not see that we have internalized a wave or field of emotion and energy that we did not produce. Consequently, it is imperative that we find a way to distinguish between what is ours and what is theirs.

I was having a particularly emotional afternoon the other day for no particular reason. All of a sudden, I realized that I was experiencing a mood that was from others and most likely from their subconscious. For whatever reason, people in general were down that day or just a bit filled with anxiety and I was picking up on it. When I was clear that I was not really upset about any one thing in particular, I was able to allow the mish mash of feelings to just wash over me and then go – I recognized it and then allowed it to leave me. It was not mine to begin with, so I had no reason to hang on to it.

When I was younger, I did not understand this, nor did my family. I was so adept at feeling what others were feeling, that I could shift gears in a moment. This was very frightening for me and I am sure it caused my parents a great deal of concern since I was unable to articulate what was really going on. It has only been in the last ten years or so that I now know why this was happening to me and how to control it in a way that does not completely unhinge my life.

If you are a sensitive person, give yourself a break. Realize that you are very, very blessed even if you do not know that you just yet. When you feel something so intensely, ask yourself if this might be a feeling that others are sending out and not your own. If so, simply relax and acknowledge your ability to sense this; let the feeling simply be and then allow it to go away. It was never yours to begin with and now that you know this, you can just allow it to move on somewhere else.

Before you leave the house and you know you are going out somewhere with a lot of people around such as a mall, movie or concert, be sure to center yourself. Feel your feet on the floor (no rubber soles, please as that grounds your energy!) connect your feet down into the energy of the earth. Feel gratitude for Mother Earth or Gaia and your connection to her. Then visualize a beautiful white, silver or gold light coming up from your feet, through your body and out of your head into the heavens.

From here you are now connected to your Higher Power, whatever that is to you. Keep this connection and feel the amazing love and power that you are now plugged into. Once you feel this, allow that beautiful white, silver or gold light to surround you as well. See it keeping your protected and safe – you can always adjust it if you feel you cannot allow enough in. When you feel you are perfectly shielded, then you can go out and enjoy yourself without being overstimulated by others energy or emotions.

If for some reason you come home feeling overwhelmed despite your best efforts, then you can do two very easy and helpful things. One, light a candle and ask your Higher Power and your Spirit Guides to clear you of all outside negative or powerful energy and emotion that is not your own. See yourself clear and cleansed. Additionally, take a relaxing shower or bath and rinse away this extra energy or emotion! This will really help you...if you are somewhere where you cannot shower or bath, just splash water on your face and arms as a substitute! Always, always drink plenty of water to rinse out toxins that have found their way inside (it's also really good for your skin!)

There are also crystals which you can carry with you or wear that will assist with all of this; however, I am a strong believer that you must learn how to control and deal with this on your own first. By doing so, you may just find out some really neat things about yourself and your abilities as a sensitive! I did and am incredibly grateful for these gifts today.

Any questions my fellow sensitives and empaths? Just ask!